Our higher intentions often reflect our values. Why values? I believe they help us to experience ourselves unique while still being connected. When we are aware of them, they help us to become clear on what motivates us, gives us joy, and purpose in life.
In my work, I often ask people what they appreciate about their partners and families. I find that their replies often focus strengths such as humor, creativity, kindness, wisdom, teamwork, and taking time for each other. These are mentioned more frequently than material items.
Focusing on strengths helps build our relationships. They help us to focus on our ideals and higher sense of self. By providing a deeper sense of inner purpose, they help us to look beyond ourselves to what we all hold in common.
We are gratified when we have opportunities to be the best of ourselves, in small ways, in daily life because we feel we are living up to the ideals we hold most dearly. Continuing to exercise strengths produces even more gratification. When we see this in others as well, we feel validated and work harder not to disappoint others' faith in us.
There is an underlying principle that applies to all of our relationships. We experience more happiness and joy by rising to the occasion, using our strengths, and bringing out the best of ourselves and others, than by focusing on our weaknesses.
So what makes for true happiness? I'd say discover and honor your sense of purpose and strengths. Have enough of life's pleasures to meet your basic needs and spice your life with opportunities and challenges to bring out your best.
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