The reason for a5B4nd the process of divorce is as varied as the shape of snowflakes. There is however a commonality among most divorce survivors - low self-esteem. Almost everyone I have spoken to or have coached around divorce recovery have low self-esteem in common. Therefore, one of the first steps in divorce recovery should be rebuilding your self-esteem. How do you go about rebuilding your self esteem, especially during an emotionally low point such as divorce?
The answer to that question is easy - you choose to change. Okay, so the answer may be easy but the implementation may not be so easy, right?
You may assume that the most common approach may be to look at why you are suffering from such low self-esteem, but I beg to differ. The truth is that you do suffer from low self-esteem - how you got to this point is not relevant because it has already happened - can't change that fact. All you can do is start from where you are now and decide where you want to go, so let's get started.
Here are seven steps to help you rebuild your self-esteem
1. Surround yourself with positive people: negative people drag the people around them down and positive people motivate others to come up to their level of enthusiasm. So take a look at the people in your life - are they positive? If they are not positive people I recommend limiting or eliminating your association with these people as they will keep you stuck. Go in search for people who a5B4re positive and are living the life they love and surround yourself with them.
2. Take Risks: try something new, step outside of your comfort zone. Once you realize that you can succeed at whatever you try you will start to believe that you are good enough. If you can't do it alone find a support buddy to try something new with or at least have them hold you accountable so you follow through when you start feeling uncomfortable.
3. Keep an Acknowledgement Journal: take the time to appreciate yourself and all that you do and contribute to the world. Begin writing down at least five things that you acknowledge yourself for doing each day, you will be amazed how wonderful you are - you just never took the time to look.
4. Make a commitment to change: you can choose to feel good or you can choose to feel bad about yourself and your life. What do you choose? Make the commitment to change your thinking today. Start appreciating what is right in the world and in your life and change the things that you don't like or don't want - stop being the victim and start taking action.
5. Change your Negative Self Talk: you know that voice in your head that tells you that you screwed up, that you're not good enough or you're stupid? Start telling that voice to shut up and start listening to the positive self talk. I challenge you to pay close attention to what you are telling yourself in any given situation; if it is negative find5B4 a way to turn it around into something positive. You learned how to talk negatively to yourself now teach yourself how to talk positively. Believe it or not it is a choice - will you live your life in negativity or will you shine in the light of positiveness?
6. Ask for support: if you find that you just can't make these changes on your own, but are committed to change then ask others for support. Find a coach, minister or support group to help you learn to appreciate yourself for all your greatness and leave that negative self-esteem behind.
7. Take Action: start to get moving, whether you start walking, running, going to the gym or work out at home - just do something. Physical activity is a great way to make you feel better both physically and emotionally. Make the commitment to get moving today and before you know it you will see your self-esteem skyrocket and you may even be able to fit into your skinny jeans again, who knows. Wouldn't hurt to find out, now would it?
If you are motivated to turn that self-esteem around and start living your life in a positive light then contact me for a sample coaching session.
Lisa A. Fredette is a CTA Certified Life Coach and a member of the Relationship Coaching Institute as well as a graduate of the Fearless Living Workshop. She is the owner of Passionate About Li5DFfe Coaching and Passionate About Life Coach Divorce Recovery Coaching Club. Lisa provides one on one and group coaching, workshops, teleseminars, ebooks, ecourses and a coaching club for her clients. Her main focus is on supporting women who are motivated to take their divorce recovery to the next level and singles who want to attract the right partner. Sign up for Lisa's free report "Be the Navigator: Six Easy Steps to Getting Back into the Driver's Seat of Life" at http://www.lisafredette.com or sign up for the Passionate about Life Coach - Divorce Recovery Coaching Club at http://www.passionateaboutlifecoach.com and gain the support you need to turn your divorce into a celebration of life.
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